“Whenever anything happens, the first thing to do is take the pain on yourself.” (Trungpa) — Give up the good feelings so someone else can benefit. This is connected with developing the Paramita of Discipline. Open your territory completely, let go of everything.
Kongtrul says: Take on all the suffering that will come to you in the future, then you’ll be able to take on others’ suffering.
Radical stuff. Like the Tibetan mountain paths, it’s not for the faint-hearted.
But it’s probably the best program ever devised for helping yourself learn to be more compassionate to others…